Please have a read of my article for this particular problem:
http://www.experts-exchange.com/articles/Software/Server_Software/Email_Servers/Exchange/Why-are-my-outbound-queues-filling-up-with-mail-I-didn't-send.html
You are most likely an Authenticated Relay and my article should help you to narrow down the abused account.
If you get stuck or have any questions, please just ask.