I dont think diagnostic logging will overload the server.
Here's how to do it.
http://www.computerperformance.co.uk/exchange2003/exchange2003_logs_diagnostic.htmwhat will overload the server is - if you start Journaling emails on a regular exchange mail server.
>> I know for sure that someone accessed my account just trying to find out who.
>>> Why do you think someone accessed your account.
If it's through Outlook - chances of figuring out who did that = ZERO.
If it's done through OWA - you can examine IIS logs